Welcome to your home for all things related to questioning, challenging, and deconstructing your faith! As a Faith Deconstruction Coach it’s my #1 goal to support you as you break free from toxic religion and cultivate a nourishing spiritual life.
How to Learn to Trust Yourself Again After Leaving Toxic Religion
Leaving a traumatic religious experience usually leaves you feeling lost, confused, and unsure of who you are and what you believe. Learning to trust yourself is possible, and it starts with these simple steps:
Navigating Christian Events While Deconstructing Your Faith
During deconstruction, many of us step back from attending church, but some events like funerals, weddings, and holiday celebrations draw us back into spaces that feel risky. So, what do you do when you ‘need’ to go, but your body is panicking, or you aren’t sure what to say, how to act, or if you even want to go?
It’s important to remember you can always say no to an event and respectfully decline, but sometimes you need to be in a Christian space because it’s important to you or someone you love. With that in mind, let’s dive into six ways of navigating Christian events while deconstructing your faith.
A Christian Response to Deconstruction
Do you have someone in your life who is deconstructing and you aren’t sure how to handle it? Do you just know their condemned to hell, or are on the wrong path? As much as you fear for someone, it’s not the stature you should take when talking with someone who is deconstructing their faith. I honor the trust it takes to really listen, so here’s how Christians should respond to those deconstructing their faith.
Why Are So Many People Deconstructing Their Faith Lately?
During the COVID restrictions of 2020, and 2021, many evangelical leaders mistakenly believed that as soon as restrictions were lifted, there would be a revival in church attendance and a zeal for all things Christian. But that’s the opposite of what happened. Because of the sharp drop, many pastors, and Christians are asking themselves, “Why are so many people deconstructing their faith lately?”
10 Things to Stop Saying During Faith Deconstruction
During deconstruction, there are a lot of moving pieces. And there are a lot of beliefs shifting. One of the most crucial things you can do is turn your language away from the shame-based scarcity mindset of toxic religion and towards a spiritual life that nourishes you. But what if you can’t discern what shame-based scarcity is versus what is true? I’ve got you, my friend! Here are ten things to stop saying during faith deconstruction
Best Books On Deconstructing Your Faith
Reading books on a wide variety of topics is a key aspect of deconstructing your faith. I know it has been for me! Over the years, I’ve given and received many recommendations in this genre. Since I’m often asked for these resources, I decided to compile what I hope will be an evolving list that we, as a community, continue adding to as we deconstruct toxic religious culture. Let me know in the comments below what you’ll be adding to your TBR pile!
My Book Is Getting Published!!!
I’m SO EXCITED to tell you that the book I’ve been dreaming of for years is now under contract!!! This yet-to-be-named book will teach you how to navigate deconstruction, untangle yourself from toxic religion, and learn to trust yourself. It’s jam-packed with real-life stories that show what deconstructing on your own terms looks like
Book Review: Gaslighted by God by Tiffany Yecke Brooks, PhD
You know I’m always on the lookout for new resources and faith deconstruction books to help you deconstruct that aren’t pushy or have hidden agendas to convert you to a specific belief system. Well, good news! I found another one! My friend, author Tiffany Yecke...
DeconstructioBook Review: Body Becoming: A Path to Our Liberation
This newly published book by Dr. Robyn Henderson-Espinoza, a TransQueer Activist, Latinx Scholar, and Politicized Theologian is one I’m super excited to share with you today. I first saw Dr. Henderson-Espinoza on social media and quickly realized I was going to learn...
9 Stunningly Beautiful Children’s Books for Deconstructing Your Faith
Deconstructing your faith is hard and can be even more complicated when you’re raising kids in the midst of your questioning. There are a lot of great books out there for adults, but it can be a little more challenging to find books for kids that represent a...
Why the Faith Deconstruction Movement Won’t Go Away (And Why That’s Good)
People are leaving the church in record numbers and it doesn’t appear to be slowing down. Some leave Christianity altogether, but there’s also a growing number of people who don’t want anything to do with the church but still want to hang on to some of their Christian...
Why Every Christian Should Pay Attention to the Exvangelical Movement
There’s something rotten in Denmark and exvangelicals are just over it, with good reason. Perhaps you’ve seen the reports from conservative research group Barna that 1 in 3 practicing Christians stopped attending church during the pandemic. A March 2021 article from...
How To Deconstruct Your Faith By Setting Healthy Boundaries
We can’t talk about how to deconstruct your faith without talking about the urgent need for setting healthy boundaries. Why? Because toxic relationships and systems THRIVE when we have zero boundaries. When people start questioning and changing their beliefs, it...
The Best Faith Deconstruction Podcasts
I love books, but as a busy momma and business owner, uninterrupted time to read is scarce. That’s why I ADORE podcasts! I listen while driving, cooking, cleaning, working in my garden…you name it. People ask me for podcast recommendations a LOT in the Faith...
This Year’s Top Articles on How to Deconstruct Your Faith
Each year I create dozens of articles to help you deconstruct your faith but there are always a few that rise to the top because people absolutely love them! To help you find the best resources, I’ve compiled this quick list of the most read and shared articles...
9 Free Resources to Jump-Start Your Faith Deconstruction
Are you new to faith deconstruction? I've been there and know it can be overwhelming. If you’re just getting started, and sorting out how to deconstruct your faith, then this is the perfect place to begin. You may have heard a lot of different things about what...