Welcome to your home for all things related to questioning, challenging, and deconstructing your faith! As a Faith Deconstruction Coach it’s my #1 goal to support you as you break free from toxic religion and cultivate a nourishing spiritual life.
yoAlright, buckle up, friend, because we're about to dive into the messy world of toxic religion and talk about what it is, how it exploits people, and how to get away so you can start recovering from religious trauma. First things first: what is toxic religion? Well,...
Finding resources for deconstructing your faith can be hit or miss, so I compiled a list of reputable resources for support when working through religious trauma.
Getting out of a toxic religion isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. Remember, you deserve to live free from guilt, shame, and fear. So here are the steps you need to break free and start living the life you want.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the abuser makes the victim question their reality, memories, and sanity. Unfortunately, gaslighting is not limited to romantic relationships or friendships; it can also happen within religious communities, including the Christian church. Read more about the signs of religious gaslighting and what you can do about it here
Deconstructing your faith is a complex process that can be difficult to navigate, especially when you’re in a committed relationship with someone who doesn’t share your doubts and questions. It’s not easy to reconcile differing beliefs, but it’s essential to approach the process with grace and understanding. Here are five tips to deconstruct while in a relationship.
If you are finding yourself in the middle of deconstruction, and trying to figure out how to handle it with kids, know you aren’t alone. You’re not just navigating your spiritual journey and all of the messy questions, but you’re also responsible for guiding your children on theirs. If you are overwhelmed by it all, check out this article on my best tips for deconstructing while parenting kids.
The question of whether or not God supports the LGBTQIA+ community is a divisive topic within the Church. The Church has historically condemned or marginalized individuals who identify as LGBTQIA+, leading to genocide, suicide, and widespread abuse and harmful effects for those under the queer umbrella. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are 8 reasons why Christians should support and advocate for the rights and dignity of LGBTQIA+ individuals.
Leaving a traumatic religious experience usually leaves you feeling lost, confused, and unsure of who you are and what you believe. Learning to trust yourself is possible, and it starts with these simple steps:
During deconstruction, many of us step back from attending church, but some events like funerals, weddings, and holiday celebrations draw us back into spaces that feel risky. So, what do you do when you ‘need’ to go, but your body is panicking, or you aren’t sure what to say, how to act, or if you even want to go?
It’s important to remember you can always say no to an event and respectfully decline, but sometimes you need to be in a Christian space because it’s important to you or someone you love. With that in mind, let’s dive into six ways of navigating Christian events while deconstructing your faith.
Do you have someone in your life who is deconstructing and you aren’t sure how to handle it? Do you just know their condemned to hell, or are on the wrong path? As much as you fear for someone, it’s not the stature you should take when talking with someone who is deconstructing their faith. I honor the trust it takes to really listen, so here’s how Christians should respond to those deconstructing their faith.
During the COVID restrictions of 2020, and 2021, many evangelical leaders mistakenly believed that as soon as restrictions were lifted, there would be a revival in church attendance and a zeal for all things Christian. But that’s the opposite of what happened. Because of the sharp drop, many pastors, and Christians are asking themselves, “Why are so many people deconstructing their faith lately?”
During deconstruction, there are a lot of moving pieces. And there are a lot of beliefs shifting. One of the most crucial things you can do is turn your language away from the shame-based scarcity mindset of toxic religion and towards a spiritual life that nourishes you. But what if you can’t discern what shame-based scarcity is versus what is true? I’ve got you, my friend! Here are ten things to stop saying during faith deconstruction
Reading books on a wide variety of topics is a key aspect of deconstructing your faith. I know it has been for me! Over the years, I’ve given and received many recommendations in this genre. Since I’m often asked for these resources, I decided to compile what I hope will be an evolving list that we, as a community, continue adding to as we deconstruct toxic religious culture. Let me know in the comments below what you’ll be adding to your TBR pile!
I’m SO EXCITED to tell you that the book I’ve been dreaming of for years is now under contract!!! This yet-to-be-named book will teach you how to navigate deconstruction, untangle yourself from toxic religion, and learn to trust yourself. It’s jam-packed with real-life stories that show what deconstructing on your own terms looks like
You know I’m always on the lookout for new resources and faith deconstruction books to help you deconstruct that aren’t pushy or have hidden agendas to convert you to a specific belief system. Well, good news! I found another one! My friend, author Tiffany Yecke...
This newly published book by Dr. Roberto Che Espinoza, a TransQueer Activist, Latinx Scholar, and Politicized Theologian is one I’m super excited to share with you today. I first saw Dr. Espinoza on social media and quickly realized I was going to learn a TON by...