yoAlright, buckle up, friend, because we're about to dive into the messy world of toxic religion and talk about what it is, how it exploits people, and how to get away so you can start recovering from religious trauma. First things first: what is toxic religion? Well,...
Finding resources for deconstructing your faith can be hit or miss, so I compiled a list of reputable resources for support when working through religious trauma.
Getting out of a toxic religion isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. Remember, you deserve to live free from guilt, shame, and fear. So here are the steps you need to break free and start living the life you want.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the abuser makes the victim question their reality, memories, and sanity. Unfortunately, gaslighting is not limited to romantic relationships or friendships; it can also happen within religious communities, including the Christian church. Read more about the signs of religious gaslighting and what you can do about it here
Deconstructing your faith is a complex process that can be difficult to navigate, especially when you’re in a committed relationship with someone who doesn’t share your doubts and questions. It’s not easy to reconcile differing beliefs, but it’s essential to approach the process with grace and understanding. Here are five tips to deconstruct while in a relationship.
If you are finding yourself in the middle of deconstruction, and trying to figure out how to handle it with kids, know you aren’t alone. You’re not just navigating your spiritual journey and all of the messy questions, but you’re also responsible for guiding your children on theirs. If you are overwhelmed by it all, check out this article on my best tips for deconstructing while parenting kids.
The question of whether or not God supports the LGBTQIA+ community is a divisive topic within the Church. The Church has historically condemned or marginalized individuals who identify as LGBTQIA+, leading to genocide, suicide, and widespread abuse and harmful effects for those under the queer umbrella. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are 8 reasons why Christians should support and advocate for the rights and dignity of LGBTQIA+ individuals.
Leaving a traumatic religious experience usually leaves you feeling lost, confused, and unsure of who you are and what you believe. Learning to trust yourself is possible, and it starts with these simple steps:
During deconstruction, many of us step back from attending church, but some events like funerals, weddings, and holiday celebrations draw us back into spaces that feel risky. So, what do you do when you ‘need’ to go, but your body is panicking, or you aren’t sure what to say, how to act, or if you even want to go?
It’s important to remember you can always say no to an event and respectfully decline, but sometimes you need to be in a Christian space because it’s important to you or someone you love. With that in mind, let’s dive into six ways of navigating Christian events while deconstructing your faith.
Do you have someone in your life who is deconstructing and you aren’t sure how to handle it? Do you just know their condemned to hell, or are on the wrong path? As much as you fear for someone, it’s not the stature you should take when talking with someone who is deconstructing their faith. I honor the trust it takes to really listen, so here’s how Christians should respond to those deconstructing their faith.