toxic religion

How Christians Gaslight and Blame it on God

How Christians Gaslight and Blame it on God

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the abuser makes the victim question their reality, memories, and sanity. Unfortunately, gaslighting is not limited to romantic relationships or friendships; it can also happen within religious communities, including the Christian church. Read more about the signs of religious gaslighting and what you can do about it here

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Deconstructing Your Faith When Your Partner Isn‘t

Deconstructing Your Faith When Your Partner Isn‘t

Deconstructing your faith is a complex process that can be difficult to navigate, especially when you’re in a committed relationship with someone who doesn’t share your doubts and questions. It’s not easy to reconcile differing beliefs, but it’s essential to approach the process with grace and understanding. Here are five tips to deconstruct while in a relationship.

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How to Avoid Legalism and Spiritually Flourish

How to Avoid Legalism and Spiritually Flourish

Are you exhausted trying to show up ‘right’ in the way people would approve and tend to your spirituality at the same time? Legalism can feel like a tight corset that keeps you from giving new breath to your faith, even in deconstruction. Here are a few ways to avoid the trap of legalism and continue to break free.

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8 Reasons Why Christians Should be 2SLGBTQIA+ Allies

8 Reasons Why Christians Should be 2SLGBTQIA+ Allies

The question of whether or not God supports the LGBTQIA+ community is a divisive topic within the Church. The Church has historically condemned or marginalized individuals who identify as LGBTQIA+, leading to genocide, suicide, and widespread abuse and harmful effects for those under the queer umbrella. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are 8 reasons why Christians should support and advocate for the rights and dignity of LGBTQIA+ individuals.

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A Christian Response to Deconstruction

A Christian Response to Deconstruction

Do you have someone in your life who is deconstructing and you aren’t sure how to handle it? Do you just know their condemned to hell, or are on the wrong path? As much as you fear for someone, it’s not the stature you should take when talking with someone who is deconstructing their faith. I honor the trust it takes to really listen, so here’s how Christians should respond to those deconstructing their faith.

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Why Are So Many People Deconstructing Their Faith Lately?

Why Are So Many People Deconstructing Their Faith Lately?

During the COVID restrictions of 2020, and 2021, many evangelical leaders mistakenly believed that as soon as restrictions were lifted, there would be a revival in church attendance and a zeal for all things Christian. But that’s the opposite of what happened. Because of the sharp drop, many pastors, and Christians are asking themselves, “Why are so many people deconstructing their faith lately?”

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10 Things to Stop Saying During Faith Deconstruction

10 Things to Stop Saying During Faith Deconstruction

During deconstruction, there are a lot of moving pieces. And there are a lot of beliefs shifting. One of the most crucial things you can do is turn your language away from the shame-based scarcity mindset of toxic religion and towards a spiritual life that nourishes you. But what if you can’t discern what shame-based scarcity is versus what is true? I’ve got you, my friend! Here are ten things to stop saying during faith deconstruction

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Deconstructing Your Faith Without Losing Friends and Family

Deconstructing Your Faith Without Losing Friends and Family

Wonder if deconstructing your faith without losing family and friends, is even possible?

The short answer is yes, sometimes, but it’s complicated! Many people ask this question when they begin questioning their religious beliefs.

In this blog post, we’ll talk about strategies for keeping those relationships strong while staying true to yourself no matter what!

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