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BOOK REVIEW: “Holy Hot Mess” by Mary Katherine Backstrom
In this book, Mary Katherine Backstrom shares hilariously relatable stories about faith, friendship, motherhood, marriage, and living with bipolar disorder. She shares simultaneously heartbreaking and hilarious stories of how God uses each "mess" in our lives to bring...
How to Handle Online Bullies While Deconstructing Your Faith
Between the rude online trolls and those who are just downright mean to you in real life, it sometimes feels like there’s no escape from the bullying. But don’t worry! I’ve put together some helpful tips for handling bullies while deconstructing your faith. Unfortunately, I can’t promise people will stop being mean. However, I can promise (from personal experience) that putting some healthy boundaries in place will help you carve out safe spaces.
30 Signs Your Church is Immersed in Toxic Religion
Have you ever wondered if your church is immersed in toxic religion? Do you have a nagging feeling that something is off or wrong, but you can't put your finger on it? Sometimes, churches can be unhealthy and oppressive, and attending will do you more harm than good....
Christian Sister, Your Hustle Is Stealing Your Peace
Christian sister, maybe you've recognized that your hustle is stealing your peace, but I'll bet you don't realize that patriarchy wants it this way. Our entire system pushes women to be more and do more and juggle more with the promise that if we prove we are "good...
10 Ways to Care for Yourself When Life Gets Chaotic
Some seasons are challenging, while others are downright exhausting.
This time we’re in right now feels like a whole different level of chaos. There are battles that need to be fought, but heavy lifting tends to take a heavy toll on each of us. So, here are a few things you can do to care for yourself when life gets chaotic.
Book Review: “You CAN Talk to God Like That” by Abby Norman
Deconstructing your faith starts with lament. We MUST grieve the loss of what we thought we had, before we can clearly see what we need. One of the things the church struggles with the most is grief. Toxic religion has mistakenly taught us to push down emotions...
7 Questions to Ask When Deconstructing Your Faith
Deconstructing your faith can seem like an overwhelming process to jump into, especially if you’ve spent much of your life embedded in Christian communities. There are a LOT of questions to ask and a LOT of answers for each question. Wondering how to deconstruct your...
Book Review: “Make A Move” by Stephanie Williams O’Brien
I’m excited to share this book with you because I know the hardest parts of my faith deconstruction journey were often the moments I spent completely drowning in indecision. It’s my hope that this book will shorten your time in the wilderness as you untangle...
5 Ways the Bible Supports Women Preaching
Women who are deconstructing their faith are often told the Bible says we are not allowed to be pastors, preachers, and leaders in the church if it gives us authority over men. There are a TON of reasons people give to back up this idea but every single one relies on...
How To Sort Through Emotional Baggage After Religious Trauma
Women in the church are constantly facing toxic religious culture and trauma. Patriarchal teaching and abusive leadership create a toxic environment where women question their value, voice, and beliefs. Even though trauma changes our lives, it's possible to grow...
The Church’s Racism and Misogyny Lead to Violence Against Women
We are here to talk about today is the role that the church, and the prolific twisted teachings and false doctrines, play in this crime and other acts of violence on women.
A Poem for The Weary Heart [Poetry As Sacred Medicine Series]
Today’s poem speaks to the heartache and heaviness that surrounds us this season. I pray that this poem is sacred medicine that comforts your weary heart.
Leave The Church to Find God?
When the church is embedded in toxic religious culture, sometimes you have to leave the church to find God.
Ravi Zacharias is Not An Anomaly, He’s The Very Common Fruit of the Toxic Religious Tree We Have Been Watering for Centuries.
The recently uncovered Ravi Zacharais abuse scandal is not a unique, once-in-a-lifetime case. Sadly, it is just one example in a long line of ongoing systems of abuse in the church. And as long as the the church continues to prioritize the success and protection of abusers over the safety, validity, and rights of victims, this will continue to happen. But the church can, and has to, do better. Read more to see how the abuse was allowed to happen, what could have been done differently, and signs of abuse to watch for in our churches and organizations.
The Best Quotes from Tara Beth Leach’s Book “Radiant Church”
Tara Beth Leach’s book “Radiant Church” is a prophetic, inspiring call for the church to strip layers of patriarchy and toxic religious culture in order to bear witness to the love of Christ in our world.
Are You Making Peace or Encouraging Toxic Behavior?
Years and years of toxic religious culture and patriarchal conditioning have led many women to believe that being a peacemaker means refusing to argue. Refusing to engage in any and all forms of conflict. Or even bending over backward to make sure that others are comfortable, even in situations where they are in the wrong. However, this type of thinking actually tends to cause more harm than good, both in our own lives and in the lives of others.