Do you have someone in your life who is deconstructing and you aren’t sure how to handle it? Do you just know their condemned to hell, or are on the wrong path? As much as you fear for someone, it’s not the stature you should take when talking with someone who is deconstructing their faith. I honor the trust it takes to really listen, so here’s how Christians should respond to those deconstructing their faith.
During the COVID restrictions of 2020, and 2021, many evangelical leaders mistakenly believed that as soon as restrictions were lifted, there would be a revival in church attendance and a zeal for all things Christian. But that’s the opposite of what happened. Because of the sharp drop, many pastors, and Christians are asking themselves, “Why are so many people deconstructing their faith lately?”
During deconstruction, there are a lot of moving pieces. And there are a lot of beliefs shifting. One of the most crucial things you can do is turn your language away from the shame-based scarcity mindset of toxic religion and towards a spiritual life that nourishes you. But what if you can’t discern what shame-based scarcity is versus what is true? I’ve got you, my friend! Here are ten things to stop saying during faith deconstruction
Reading books on a wide variety of topics is a key aspect of deconstructing your faith. I know it has been for me! Over the years, I’ve given and received many recommendations in this genre. Since I’m often asked for these resources, I decided to compile what I hope will be an evolving list that we, as a community, continue adding to as we deconstruct toxic religious culture. Let me know in the comments below what you’ll be adding to your TBR pile!
Deconstructing your faith is hard and can be even more complicated when you’re raising kids in the midst of your questioning. There are a lot of great books out there for adults, but it can be a little more challenging to find books for kids that represent a...
People are leaving the church in record numbers and it doesn’t appear to be slowing down. Some leave Christianity altogether, but there’s also a growing number of people who don’t want anything to do with the church but still want to hang on to some of their Christian...
There’s something rotten in Denmark and exvangelicals are just over it, with good reason. Perhaps you’ve seen the reports from conservative research group Barna that 1 in 3 practicing Christians stopped attending church during the pandemic. A March 2021 article from...
We can’t talk about how to deconstruct your faith without talking about the urgent need for setting healthy boundaries. Why? Because toxic relationships and systems THRIVE when we have zero boundaries. When people start questioning and changing their beliefs, it...
You probably know I LOVE books, but as a busy momma and business owner, uninterrupted time to read is scarce. That’s why I ADORE podcasts! I listen to the best faith deconstruction podcasts while driving, cooking, cleaning, working in my garden…you name it. People ask...
Each year I create dozens of articles to help you deconstruct your faith but there are always a few that rise to the top because people absolutely love them! To help you find the best resources, I’ve compiled this quick list of the most read and shared articles...