I meet a lot of people who are in the process of deconstructing faith and getting pushback about the questions they’re asking. 

It’s totally normal that your friends, family, and even your local church get a little nervous when you start pushing boundaries, questioning traditions, and charging into grey areas. Friends and family tend to want us to stay safe, but falling in line with toxic religious culture isn’t safe and it definitely isn’t the freedom from oppression that Jesus spoke about over and over. 

That’s why faith deconstruction is so important. It moves us away from idolizing the church and moves us toward a spiritual life that is true and healthy.

If we truly believe that God has all the answers and welcomes our questions, then asking messy questions that challenge the norm is an exercise in faith, not rebellion.

So what is deconstructing faith? 

Mirriam-Webster gives this definition:

A philosophical or critical method which asserts that meanings, metaphysical constructs, and hierarchical oppositions (as between key terms in a philosophical or literary work) are always rendered unstable by their dependence on ultimately arbitrary signifiers

also: an instance of the use of this method
a deconstruction of the nature-culture opposition in Rousseau’s work
The analytic examination of something (such as a theory) often in order to reveal its inadequacy

What is deconstructing faith, and why does it freak people out???

Deconstructing faith is simply breaking down all the components that make up our faith. It’s taking a really deep look at what is truly from God and releasing ourselves from what isn’t from God. Basically, we are weeding out the falsehoods and creating more room for the Truth to flourish. It’s desperately needed by just about anyone who has grown up in or around the church.

Deconstruction helps us find God’s Truth, not the truth that humans twist up in our own biases and fears.

Contrary to what some patriarchal conservative groups say (ahem…The Gospel Coalition, I’m looking at you), deconstructing our faith is not the same a abandoning it for a life with no moral compass.

It’s also not the same as making up some new idolatrous faith contrary to God’s Word and putting ourselves in the very center.

People who choose to deconstruct their faith typically work very hard not to lose it. 

God, they love. They want to abandon the patriarchy and toxic religious culture that tries to twist Christianity into a religion that protects the power of the white, affluent, fundamentalist, mostly male majority at the cost of everyone else. (Just ask the indigenous people of the U.S.  who faced genocide and cultural obliteration at the hands of the church.)

Those of us who have chosen to deconstruct know that it would have been much easier to put our heads down and pretend the church was fine as it is. 

It would also have been easier to throw the proverbial baby out with the bathwater and assume God does want the church to be patriarchal, nationalistic, and judgemental….What is deconstructing faith? It’s hard…and holy…

Anything would be easier than falling down the rabbit hole of deconstruction. This process requires one to examine every single belief about God. Because examining is only the first step.

Deconstruction also requires us to wrestle with our own biases, privilege, and flaws in very uncomfortable ways.

We have to take off our masks, rip open all the old wounds, and stand in front of the mirror naked before we can actually see God (and ourselves) without the trappings of toxic religious culture.
It’s not easy.

Actually, choosing a season of deconstructing faith can kick off an absolutely BRUTAL season. Deconstruction is not a cowardly move for those who don’t want to be sanctified by God’s Holy Fire.

Questioning your faith is liberating.It’s what happens when we give up the idolatry of worshipping toxic religions. When we exchange it for an intimate connection with the Holy Spirit that moves us in real-time.

So, what is deconstructing faith?

Deconstructing our faith is a radically courageous step toward connecting with the Truth. 

So no, it’s not heretical, cowardly, or selfish to say “ENOUGH!” to patriarchy and toxic religious culture and head for the wilderness to find God.

It’s purifying.
It’s exactly what Jesus did.

So shut out the voice telling you not to deconstruct. Unfollow the “All Lives Matter” crew. Read a few books by church outcasts who never stopped loving Jesus. (Here you’ll find a few of my faves!)

Those who simultaneously post “Love your neighbor” memes and calls refugees at our borders “murders and rapists.” 

Start asking hard questions about things that are OK with most Christians but seem to contradict Jesus’ teachings.
(Spoiler-they usually contradict Jesus because they’re man-made constructs, not God’s design.)

You can also choose who you want to invest your time and energy in talking to when they ask “What is deconstruction?” Not everyone deserves your efforts, especially when they are only interested in countering eerything you say. 

I hope you will 100% reject the judgment of people who say those of us who choose to deconstruct our faith are lost.
Because we are not. We are more ‘found’ than our tightly bound pre-deconstruction self. If you are still wondering what is deconstructing faith, and what it means. At the end of the day it’s asking the hard messy questions that don’t have absolute answers.

And to be honest, wrestling through the weeds of our limiting beliefs about God is the holiest pilgrimage one can make.


So go ahead…Relentlessly ask “What is deconstructing faith?” untill you settle on the definition that leads you to a flourishing spiritual life.