“This is all just so….overwhelming.”
I hear this constantly from women in ministry AND I have said it at least million times myself. Feeling overwhelmed isn’t a weakness or sin. Often it means you are in a transitional stage where life is changing and you’re sensing the conflict between the old and the new.
The key to resolving that conflict, is to give yourself permission to do what you can with what resources you have right now.
The honest truth is I could grow my ministry faster if my kids weren’t home, my kids could have more of my attention if I wasn’t leading a ministry, and my house would look so much better if I wasn’t in the middle of writing a book.
But here’s the thing: God has called me to build a ministry, have a big family, and write a book. So He must know there’s a healthy balancing place and I’ll likely find it centered around His plan for me.
There are lots of tips to help you get organized that will make your life a little less hectic, like cutting back on TV watching, getting a good organizer, doubling meals and freezing the extra one, but you’ve got be OK with letting non-urgent things slide if God is directing your attention towards something else.
Remember ministry is a process and you’ll continue to change and grow as your ministry changes and grows.
When God calls you to move towards Him, you have to move away from where you’re at right now. Often times we picture spiritual growth as a road. To move forward (to grow) you simply put one foot in front of the other. Whether you’re running, walking, or crawling, you just keep pushing forward. From my experience it’s more like monkey bars.
The only way to reach the bar God is putting in front of you, is to let go of the one behind you.
It doesn’t seem too difficult until you realize this shift will leave you dangling by one hand! But the longer you hang on to the bar behind you, the more weary you grow. My best advice to move past this overstretched position is to carve out some quiet time to ask God what you can let go of and then do it! You may be surprised how much momentum you pick up when you let go of something that’s holding you back.
What do you do when your ministry or life in general becomes overwhelming? I want to know! Post your thoughts in the comments and don’t forget to join the conversation over in our group of like minded women, Christian Women Who Lead.
Hey there friend! I’m Angela J Herrington, MA, LSCC and I’m a Faith Deconstruction coach who provides soul care for people who are untangling from toxic religion.
As a certified life coach and seminary-trained online pastor, I have a lot of experience helping people connect with God. But this is also a very personal journey for me.
For the last decade, I’ve been on my own journey to break free from learned smallness and step into wild sacred holy womanhood. Long story short, after finding faith in my early 30’s I began to realize that what I was hearing from the church about women didn’t always line up with what God was telling me. I loved God but realized the church was teaching some really toxic stuff.
So this Enneagram 8, first born, Gen Xer started deconstructing. I questioned and challenged everything I thought I knew about faith, gender, and myself.
It was messy and took a lot of work to sort it out. Therapy. Coaching. Bodywork. Spiritual healing. Conferences and retreats. And even a couple of college degrees.
You name it…I tried it.
But the thing that made the biggest difference was the presence and support of wise people who helped me up when I didn’t know where else to turn.
That’s why in September 2021, I created and hosted The Deconstructing Faith Summit. I gathered 20 phenomenal deconstruction experts to share their expertise and hosted over 1100 attendees in the week-long virtual event. Those who attended realized they weren’t alone, had a safe space to ask questions, learned dozens of strategies to help them deconstruct, and released tons of pent-up emotions they didn’t even know they were carrying around.
We laughed, we cried, and we danced, but the best part was…We did it together.
It was AMAZING and it was just the beginning.
So now, I’m doubling down on my commitment to create an inclusive support system for people, like you, who are longing to get away from toxic religion and cultivate a nourishing spiritual life.