What’s your biggest fear? Is it failure? Is it being hurt? Is it losing your way? Is it hitting rock bottom?
Let’s be courageous and go one step further: What emotion does that fear stir within you? Does it remind you of horrible things that have happened before? Or is it just a fear of the possibility of things going incredibly wrong in the future?
I’ve been in a lot of situations surrounded by fear. Situations where I’m completely paralyzed over what might happen and I’m finally getting to a point in life where I see this truth:
One of the biggest lessons that you can learn in life is that anxiety never feeds you.
And that never nurtures you. Staying in that place where you’re fearful may seem like a safe place, but in actuality it’s the least safe place that you could possibly be. Because once your energy starts to drain and that fear starts to grow, it’s a monster that continues to grow and spread into other areas of your life.
Even though you may only have anxiety in one area of life to start, if you sit in it and continue to let it grow, it will start taking over the rest of your life entirely.
And before you know it, you’re paralyzed: In your faith life, your relationships, your business dreams, and creating something that you’d love to do. So stop feeding the monster. If you can do one thing today that says “Hey, fear. Hey, anxiety. You’re a liar, and you don’t own me, and you don’t deserve my energy” I promise, you’ll notice a shift. It may only feel like a slight shift, but it’s still a shift.
If you can teach yourself to start every day by putting on the posture that says anxiety and fear cannot have today, then each of those little shifts will start to pile up.
And by the end of the week, the month, the year, you’ll notice that it’s a lot easier to say: “Fear doesn’t own this day” than it is to sit in the fear and say: “What if? What if? What if? What if I mess up? What if I get hurt?” Please understand the biggest tragedy in life isn’t making mistakes.It isn’t falling on your face. It isn’t getting hurt.
The tragedy of life is sitting in a position of life so afraid of failure that you can’t see your own potential.
And you can’t see the creative amazing person that God has designed you to be. That’s the greatest tragedy. So embrace the messiness. Embrace the failure. Fall on your face. Say dumb stuff. And get up the next day and say: “You know what? Fear doesn’t own today.” And keep going. Because there are some beautiful things that can happen as soon as you learn to trust yourself enough to get out of that paralyzed fearful place.
You’re going to find that the world is a pretty amazing place and God has perfectly designed you to go out there and change it.
Need support while you create that change? Surround yourself with courageous women around the globe who are saying no to fear and anxiety everyday by joining my free online support group for women in ministry and business!
Angela J Herrington is founder of Broken Beautiful BOLD online women’s ministry and Life and Leadership Coach for Christian Women.
In addition to operating a successful boutique social media agency, she teaches women how to recognize, cultivate, and unleash their God given leadership ability. She holds a BA from Indiana Wesleyan and a Masters in Leadership from Wesley Seminary. Her graduate research project focused on leadership development and opportunities for Gen X women in the US church.
Angela is a Lark’s Song Certified Life Coach who reaches hundreds of thousands of women in 40+ countries each month on Facebook, IG, Twitter, Pinterest and two blogs. She is Director of Communications for Wesleyan Holiness Women Clergy, a women led organization dedicated to engaging, empowering, and equipping women to lead in the church.
She is the host of the soon to be launched God Sized Calling Podcast and has also been published in Hope for Women and HOPE is Now magazines.
Angela is a also wife, mom to 6, and proud resident of Marion, Indiana with her family when they’re not traveling the US in their RV.