Being a leader isn’t what I expected.
There, I said it.
I showed you what is behind the curtain.
It’s not nearly as glamorous or shiny as most of the gurus make it out to be. There’s a lot more messing up, doing things over, and wondering if I’m setting my team up for a massive crash and burn. This overnight success thing takes years of work.
A few years ago God gave me a vision. It was only a snapshot, but it was beautiful. I was backstage with a few loved ones getting ready to speak to lots of people. We were all dressed nicely and very excited to be wherever we were at! I woke up excited and ready to make it happen.
Fast forward to today. We have had explosive growth over the last year, but we still have work to do. I thought we’d get there quicker, with fewer wandering paths, and less sleepless nights. I mean really, if God was calling me to it He would make sure we got there, right?
But that’s not what it means to be a Christian leader.
When I said yes to standing in front of this group of people I love so dearly, I said yes to .
More spiritual warfare.
More straining my neck to see what’s around the next corner.
More wondering if God made a mistake to call me to this thing we are building.
I wasn’t fully prepared for more, but that’s what the world delivered.
6 years into this ever evolving project, I’m learning that God expected more from me than I expected from myself. Perhaps more importantly, He was prepared to offer more of Himself, than I expected from Him.
More peace when I was overwhelmed.
More like-minded men and women to inspire me to keep going.
More prayer warriors to protect my team and family.
More grace when I doubted everything.
More miracles when all I expected was bolts of judgmental lightning.
Christian leadership is as transformational to us, as it is to those we are called to lead.
We can’t steamroll people at any cost. There’s no cutting corners or cheating when we are doing things God’s way. So getting messy, making mistakes, and needing the support of others is par for the course. We have to work on ourselves as much as we work on other people. Releasing ourselves from old expectations, habits, and false-beliefs is exponentially more difficult than getting others to believe in us. It takes time.
Perhaps you’re in in a similar season. God has given you a vision that’s polished and shiny, but you’re looking around feeling like a jumbled mess.
You feel discontent with the present and are ready to be in the future that God has promised. You’re longing to be in the presence of people whose lives are being changed.
To you I say keep going. The mess that surrounds you is like evidence of your leadership and it’s a good thing. Old ways are being torn down. New ways are being built. You’re worn out because you are blazing new trails with people who never even knew those trails existed.
Messy, tired, and changed by this journey are your goals for this season.
Be honest with yourself about how heavy this load is and make it a priority to rest, sit with God, lean on others.
Let the vision of the future encourage you instead of making you feel like you’re not doing enough. This season is hard, acknowledging that isn’t sinful. God knows it’s hard and He still called you to it because it’s worth it. He’s taking you through this season,, because you’re worth it.
Becoming a Christian leader isn’t just about developing your own relationship with God.
You can do that privately with Him and never lead anyone. Leadership requires us to stand in front of our community and reveal to them, what they cannot yet see on their own.
That mess, watered by your sweat and tears, will grow into the beautiful vision God has shown you. Give yourself permission to be here, in the midst of the process, and to be transformed.
You may pick up a few scars along the way, but what great warrior hasn’t?
Angela J Herrington, MA, LSCC is a Life and Leadership Coach for Christian Women at AngelaJHerrington.com , founder of Broken Beautiful BOLD online women’s ministry, and Christian feminist activator at WildSacredHoly.com.
Angela is a spunky Gen Xer who creates sacred spaces for vulnerable exploration. Her specialty is helping Christian women untangle themselves from limiting beliefs, toxic religious culture, and all the ways the enemy tries to keep them small. She holds a BA from Indiana Wesleyan and a Masters in Leadership from Wesley Seminary. Her graduate research project focused on leadership development and opportunities for Gen X women in the US church.
Angela and her unique online ministry were featured in Lyz Lenz’s 2019 book God Land: Story of Faith, Loss, and Renewal in Middle America. She also has been published in Hope for Women and HOPE is Now magazines.
Angela is also a Lark’s Song Certified Life Coach who reaches hundreds of thousands of women in 40+ countries each month on Facebook, IG, Twitter, Pinterest, and two blogs. She is Director of Communications for Wesleyan Holiness Women Clergy, a women-led organization dedicated to engaging, empowering, and equipping women to lead in the church.
Angela is also a wife, mom to 6, and proud resident of Marion, Indiana with her family when they’re not traveling the US in their RV.