A few weeks ago one of my readers asked:
How do I gain enough confidence to speak in front my audience, either in person or online?
I get asked this question often, and it’s something I had to figure out for myself in my own business. Building confidence takes work, but with determination, bravery, and some outside help, we can do anything!
Here are a few tips that might help you work through these issues:
1.You don’t have to be an expert to help people. In regards to building your confidence, remember that most often the people we serve are only 1 or two steps behind us and we can always speak wisdom into their lives even if we are a work in progress. You don’t have to have crossed the finish line in order to help and encourage someone jogging behind you.
2. Coaching can be a huge help. Finding the right coach can do wonders for building your confidence, as well as give you guidance around your brand. I’d recommend finding a coach that specifically deals with confidence. It is important to tackle any confidence issues head on so that you can show up fully for your people without that getting in your way.
3. Practice makes perfect. One way you can get more comfortable speaking in front of your audience is to practice, practice, practice! Start with recording videos on your phone, then post your best one on facebook. Once you get comfortable with that, go live! Having a short outline handy of what you want to talk about will help too.
I hope these tips help you! Now I want to know: How do you build the confidence to speak in front of your audience?
Let me know in the comments, and don’t forget to join our community of like-minded women where we continue the discussion!


Hey there friend! I’m Angela J Herrington, MA, LSCC and I’m a Faith Deconstruction coach who provides soul care for people who are untangling from toxic religion.
As a certified life coach and seminary-trained online pastor, I have a lot of experience helping people connect with God. But this is also a very personal journey for me.
For the last decade, I’ve been on my own journey to break free from learned smallness and step into wild sacred holy womanhood. Long story short, after finding faith in my early 30’s I began to realize that what I was hearing from the church about women didn’t always line up with what God was telling me. I loved God but realized the church was teaching some really toxic stuff.
So this Enneagram 8, first born, Gen Xer started deconstructing. I questioned and challenged everything I thought I knew about faith, gender, and myself.
It was messy and took a lot of work to sort it out. Therapy. Coaching. Bodywork. Spiritual healing. Conferences and retreats. And even a couple of college degrees.
You name it…I tried it.
But the thing that made the biggest difference was the presence and support of wise people who helped me up when I didn’t know where else to turn.
That’s why in September 2021, I created and hosted The Deconstructing Faith Summit. I gathered 20 phenomenal deconstruction experts to share their expertise and hosted over 1100 attendees in the week-long virtual event. Those who attended realized they weren’t alone, had a safe space to ask questions, learned dozens of strategies to help them deconstruct, and released tons of pent-up emotions they didn’t even know they were carrying around.
We laughed, we cried, and we danced, but the best part was…We did it together.
It was AMAZING and it was just the beginning.
So now, I’m doubling down on my commitment to create an inclusive support system for people, like you, who are longing to get away from toxic religion and cultivate a nourishing spiritual life.
Thanks for another great post, Angela.
Can I make a recommendation for Speak Up? It’s the premier conference for launching and building a speaking ministry. https://www.speakupconference.com/
Thank you for Sharing and Caring Angela. I truly appreciate the time you took to write this and encourage us because it is a very hard task to go online or talk to people in a live setting.
You’re welcome! Thanks for taking the time to drop a comment.