Being a Christian leader is hard, and ALL Christians are called to be leaders no matter how tough the road. If you ever struggle with your role as a leader, take comfort in knowing that you aren’t alone, give yourself grace, and know that there are things you can do to help you on your journey. I hope this list of my top 10 ways to be a better leader will help if you’re feeling stuck!
1. Start at the feet of Jesus everyday
You cannot pour into others what you are unwilling to receive from God so make this your #1 priority every, single day…Rinse and repeat because this is where leaders are made.
2. Love yourself the way God loves you
In order to be a good leader you absolutely need to love yourself the way God does. Just as you are: A beloved daughter who He loves very much. Absolutely forgiven: No negative self talk or low blows when old wounds surface. Love yourself with grace, kindness, and encouragement, just like He does.
3. Stop hustling to earn approval, love, or whatever else you’ve been deprived of
If people let you down, you cannot heal that wound by earning their approval. Trying to earn your way free becomes an idol and is a distraction the enemy uses to keep you focused on what you lack instead of God’s presence in your life. Stop hustling and start soaking in God’s grace, sister.
4. Choose leadership as your identity, not your job
Leadership is a God given anointing. It’s part of your very DNA. Uncovering the leader within us is part of the healing journey back to our pre-fall intimacy with God. Running from it keeps God at arms length by saying He’s wrong about this part of you. It creates shame and encourages you to hide. Don’t fall for it.
5. Give in to your anointing
We waste so much time doubting ourselves and doubting whether or not God is really calling us to lead. HE IS CALLING YOU TO THIS. Say yes, and move on.
6. Recognize the influence you have instead of killing yourself to get what you don’t
Look around! You already have influence. Don’t believe me? Ask around. Pay attention to who asks you for advice or seeks you out for emotional support when things get hard. We have to honor what we’ve been given before we can take on more.
7. Cultivate gratitude every day, especially the hard ones
There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for, even if it’s only that this very bad no good day will not go on forever. Wake up every morning and find your gratitude before the hard stuff hits. Then revisit it at night to keep from being overwhelmed and shutting down.
8. Love your body now, not when it looks like you think it should
Y’all: It’s time to get over our hangups about how we look and stop using them as excuses to hurt ourselves, push others away, and hide from God. Care for yourself now out of love instead of punishing your body for the way it’s responded to life. You’ll be a better leader if you care for yourself generously.
9. Slow down and play the long game
Leadership isn’t a sprint. That hustle, hustle, hustle vibe is a cultural thing, not a God thing. Focus on doing it well within the context of a healthy life. If you rush through every day trying to pack more in, you’re going to step on people, including yourself. Slow down and find the pace that’s right for you in this season.
10. Be willing to be led.
You cannot become a Jesus centered leader if you’re hard-hearted, prideful, and isolated. Find a few trustworthy people to look up to, learn from, and be mentored by and stick with them as long as God says to. Be humble and teachable and learn from other people.
What about you? Is there anything you would add to this list? I’d love to know in the comments! And if you’re looking for a community of other Christian leaders who are building each other up daily, then don’t forget to join our free group, Christian Women Who Lead.
Angela J Herrington is founder of Broken Beautiful BOLD online women’s ministry and Life and Leadership Coach for Christian Women.
In addition to operating a successful boutique social media agency, she teaches women how to recognize, cultivate, and unleash their God given leadership ability. She holds a BA from Indiana Wesleyan and a Masters in Leadership from Wesley Seminary. Her graduate research project focused on leadership development and opportunities for Gen X women in the US church.
Angela is a Lark’s Song Certified Life Coach who reaches hundreds of thousands of women in 40+ countries each month on Facebook, IG, Twitter, Pinterest and two blogs. She is Director of Communications for Wesleyan Holiness Women Clergy, a women led organization dedicated to engaging, empowering, and equipping women to lead in the church.
She is the host of the soon to be launched God Sized Calling Podcast and has also been published in Hope for Women and HOPE is Now magazines.
Angela is a also wife, mom to 6, and proud resident of Marion, Indiana with her family when they’re not traveling the US in their RV.